This morning, as I listened to parents, on a morning talk show, discuss the devastating event of their young daughter being murdered by her “friends”. They shared their daughter had a bright personality, caring spirit and strong sense of self. Somehow, someway, her group of friends suddenly turned into “mean girls” and decided to take her life. How dreadful! How develastating! Oh, how my heart went out to this mother and father. My spirit was grieved and I began to weep and pray.
The talk show host began to share how parents can keep their daughters from becoming a “mean girl”. As they discussed this, I simply begin to think of how I am always pouring into my girls so they will grow into strong young ladies. Young ladies who have a strong sense of self and a positive attitude and self-image. However, I did not think to also include teaching them that “all girls” are special! They are not the “only” ones fearfully and wonderfully made... but “ALL” are fearfully and wonderfully made. I want my girls to respect themselves, respect their uniqueness, as well as, the uniqueness of other girls! I set the tone for this! I must model this. Who else will they learn this from??
The same is true for mothers of boys. We teach our sons strength, as well as, gentleness. They learn how to love, by the way we love them. They learn how to treat others by the way we treat others.
How do we get this value to stick? Children are under so much pressure when they are surrounded by peers, who may or may not share the same belief system. It is important for us, as mothers, to make it routine to “love on” our children. No matter the circumstance... love on our children. They need to know that no matter what they do, they will ALWAYS be loved. They need to know that the same way they respect and love themselves must be duplicated toward their peers.
This, mothers, is pleasing in the sight of God. That we teach our children how to love themselves and others. We can do this one day at a time. Consistently.
Until next time, love yourself!
Heavenly Father, help us to demonstrate Your love in the lives of our children. Help us to demonstrate Your love for others, as we raise our children.
Father, we look to You for strength, guidance and wisdom to lay the right and solid foundation for our children. Help us to trust in You with all of our heart, and lean not unto our own understanding. You called us to be mothers and we thank You! We thank You for the big and small things You are doing in our lives.
in Jesus name we pray, Amen.