For the past 16 years, I have worked in the early childhood education and family services sector. For the last 5 years, I have done such while being a wife and mom. Approximately 3 months ago, I decided to be a stay-at-home mom. Actually, for the past 8 months, I had been debating and entertaining the idea of leaving my career behind, in order to be at home, to raise my little girls full-time. With the need for me to be at home becoming more and more apparent and quite obvious, when the opportunity presented itself, it was easy for me to let everything go and embrace the life of being a stay-at-home mom.
At first, it was challenging transitioning into my new role! I had to remind myself that I did not have to worry nor be concerned with work. I had a “new” job to perform…and this job was far more important. This job involved nurturing and rearing two innocent lives that the Lord blessed my husband and I to have for the past 5 years. This job also involved maintaining a marriage and family. What a journey it has been!
The funny thing about this is that I have learned so much about myself. Some of the things I have learned, I did not like. With God’s grace and mercy, He is demonstrating His Strength in my weakness and brokenness. I truly am grateful to Him. He has provided encouragement, guidance and uplift throughout this transition. I am thankful for the godly and supportive women and mothers He has caused me to cross paths and develop relationships with during this transition. He knows just what we need…and when we need it.
One of the things I have had to learn and even “re-master” is planning. As a new stay-home mom, the days seem to fly by quickly! Before I knew it, it was bedtime and yet, another day had passed without me accomplishing tasks. I wondered if I needed a “daily schedule”? Did I honestly need to put myself on a schedule? Did I need to also put my daughter (who is home during the day with me) on a schedule, as well? Yes! Absolutely! While talking to my Aunt one morning, this was confirmed. She asked me about my daily schedule for me and my daughter. Later, that week, I sat down and made a schedule out for me and my daughter.
Planning is really helping me. One morning, while in prayer, the Lord had me to start studying the word, “plan”. "Proverbs 21:5 states, “ The plans of the diligent lead surely to advantage , but everyone who is hasty comes surely to poverty.” WOW! What an eye opener! This scripture was life changing! Planning is a skill I needed to continue to develop. Little by little, I have made revisions to how I manage my day. After breakfast, I begin to prep lunch, for my daughter, and dinner, for the family, simultaneously. My daughters daily activities are scheduled to promote early learning skill development, as well as, to prevent excessive amounts of screen time! I thought to myself, do not stop here…let’s add a cleaning schedule! It is truly amazing what God will show us about ourselves, when we have our eyes open to see and ears to hear. Lord, I thank you for enabling me to have a receptive spirit during this time.
I am not perfect, as I still become frustrated on days I feel there is simply too much juggle. I am also still trying to schedule an ongoing fitness routine in my schedule. (still in progress! lol) However, God constantly assures me that He is in control and as long as I abide in Him, I can manage….I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Sometimes, as busy mothers, we may think we do not have time to plan. We even think we can keep it all in our head. I’m here to be transparent and say, “no”…I could not do it! “I was not successful in keeping it all in my head!” “I failed miserably using that technique!” Kudos to all the fantastic moms who can! Keeping it all in my head did not work for me. By being intentional with planning, it has allowed me to reduce stress and chaos, while promoting organization, consistency and peace throughout my household. Until next time, Love yourself!
I thank you for your strength, power, grace and mercy. I thank you for your generous love you show toward me. I thank you for the wisdom you unselfishly give to me, even when I have not accepted your wisdom and guidance and chose to do things “my way”, you did not forsake me. I thank you Lord for always listening to me as I vent about all of the tasks I need to manage and control. You remind me that You are in control and that I only must abide in You. Father, I love you. I can do nothing without you.
Father, you made me. You know everything about me. You know how my brain operates. You know my challenges, my strengths, my temptations and my heart. I am not always the best planner and organizer. In my weakness, you are demonstrating your strength and power like never before. I do not want to go the left nor right, without your permission. The only way I will succeed is to forever abide in You.
Father, I ask that you continue to make your instructions plain to me. Continue to correct and groom me so I will become the mother and wife you have called me to be. I ask that you continue to give me the will and desire to be a planner, as this benefits me, my family and the overall household 100%. Your word tells me that You will never leave nor forsake me. Your word also tells me that they that wait on the Lord, shall be renewed - and they shall mount up on wings as eagles. Lord, I desire to wait on you. I desire to wait for Your guidance, Your correction and Your grooming. I desire to be worthy of Your blessings and favor. Father, I ask that you continue to control my daily schedule, my husband’s daily schedule and my family’s daily schedule. Father, even the adults, who are caring for my children, I ask that you take control of their daily schedule and plans, as well. I ask that you cause each of us to think and reflect on Your goodness and Your word throughout the day. I ask that you cause each of us, after thinking and reflecting, to thank You for Your goodness! In Jesus name, Amen.